Does it seem like everyone is struggling
Seems like many around me are going through some tough stuff, i,e, divorces, health problems, problem with children, problem with exes, financial troubles etc. All seem severe and challenging situations. Does it seem that way to you as well, troubled times for those around you?
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD?????
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winner, life is full of challenging situations. Everyone faces them at one time or another. Some people are unfortunate enough to be confronted with several of them all at the same time.
I think what has happened is that our BC dx has focused our attention on those things, so we tend to notice them more. Maybe we linger on the bad stuff, and worry about it more, than we did before BC.
I don't know how old you are, but I'm old enough to have been alive, and alert, during the 1960's. I remember quite well the day I got home from school and saw my mom watching a news report about the Cuban missile crisis. I thought for sure we would be at war with the Soviet Union within a few days, and everyone back then knew that meant nuclear war. I recall clearly the packets of information she brought home from the "civil defense" meetings, where people were taught what to do in case of nuclear war--where to go, what to eat, how long to stay underground. My dad even constructed a concrete-block room in the basement, to be used as a shelter. (We ended up using it as a shower instead.)
I was in high school during the turmoil of the civil rights movement, when police fought with marchers in the streets of our cities, and the whole thing was broadcast on TV every night. A beloved President was shot and killed, leaving a wife, young daughter, and infant son. A few years later, his brother was shot and killed, as was one of the most prominent civil rights activists in the country.
The war in Vietnam was fought during my high school and college years. My cousin was killed in Vietnam, about 6 weeks after he arrived there. I still have a postcard he sent from the Phillipines, enroute to where he would be posted (and killed). The war was tolerable at first, but of course became wildly unpopular among a large proportion of Americans before the U.S. finally just quit and went home. I was sitting in a college class one time when student protestors were being beaten and tear-gassed just outside our building. Our instructor had to close the windows to keep the tear gas out. Cars were overturned and burned; campus buildings were damaged; protestors were bloodied--and the whole event was broadcast live on TV, for everyone to see.
As for personal crises, well, every family has those. I won't list the number of divorces, heart attacks, strokes, cancer, fatal car accidents, lost jobs, etc., that affected my family--and that was all before 1975.
Then there was the oil crisis, which pushed gas prices sky high and created lines a mile long; there was a period of insane inflation in which mortgage interest rates were up around 14%; there were times when the unemployment rate was far higher than it is today; ...
So, no...IMHO, things in the world today are not worse than they used to be. Times are troubled, but they always are. We just need to muster the strength to get through it to the other side.
otter
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I had a boss about 25 years ago (!) who told me that since the beginning of time man has been predicting the end of the world...and we're still here. It seems like things are getting worse and worse, but in reality I think it's the same...it's just perspective. Yeah, there is trouble in the world and in everyone's lives, but it's always been that way. We are struggling with a housing crisis, ridiculous gas prices (gas prices by me went up 45 cents yesterday!), the cost of everything going through the roof, and a war that seems to be dragging on forever...but my parents grew up during the depression...when there were no jobs and bread lines, and polio was taking out a lot of people, etc...
As humans though...we just keep on keepin' on...
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It isn't a random selection. When life is just going hunky dory there isn't much to talk about. At one time I could have gone on at some length about my jerky husband - and trust me he was a class A jerk. But now he's a nice guy, so what's to say? Two of my three sons were royal pains in the patootie as teens, but now they are quite nice young men. Who cares about that?
If I ever did a bumper sticker it would surely be "shit happens" cause it happens to everyone. I'm about the same age as otter, and have about the same view. I don't know what's happening in the world, but I know that I wouldn't go back 50 years for anything. The good old days, weren't.
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If I didn't see this stuff on TV everyday , I believe I would feel a whole lot better.
I think we all know to much and half of it isn't even true.
As for the gas, it went up to $4.49 here today. The streets looked like the 70's on Friday afternoon. And some of the stations are out of gas completely. Now that is crazy.
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I agree with Otter. Life is always going to have ups and downs and these don't necessarily relate to struggles or struggling. It's all about perspective. There will be times when life is easier (though we often don't realize that at the time) and when life is harder. As MKE said, sometimes when people are in a rut they don't realize all the positive things going on. I had a fire in June and I was displaced for 6 weeks. It really sucked, but I didn't let that get me down, I felt fortunate it wasn't worse and that my cats survived. I bet in Galveston or Houston, where there is devestation all around that will take months if not years to recover from, there are a lot of people thinking how crappy life is and also some who are grateful they survived and just happy to have their loved ones. Perspective.
My friends and family have had extremely challenging life stressors to deal with and we're the roll with the punches kind of folks. We care and empathize, but we don't become overwhelmed with each other's problems because we have clear boundaries between where we stop and they start.
Are you doing enough to take care of yourself and replenish your own resources?
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