i hate the word!!!!

Cory, I'm sorry for all you're going through. I'm an 8 yr. survivor. I had a lumpectomy and 21 lymph nodes removed---4 were positive. I went through 8 months of chemo, and 6 weeks of radiation. It was very scary, but I'm still here---doing well ! It's a long, tough road, but just be there for your Mom, and try to think positive. I'm sure that there will be others here to give you advice. Sounds like your Mother has a very loving and caring daughter. That means alot. I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Cory,

Bless your heart. I too am 46 and my 48 year old sister has BC. It is very overwhelming and the information is too much to wrap your head around in the beginning. My advice to you is to use this website to educate yourself as much as possible. Knowledge is so powerful. If there is any way you could go to the doctor's appt. with your mother that would be good. Educate yourself first. Be knowledgeable so that you can ask GOOD questions when you are at the doctor's office. I can't answer your questions about the numbers. I do know that when your mother goes to the oncologist for the chemo they do a check up at each visit to check her counts before they begin. If they are not within certain limits they cannot proceed with the treatment and will put it off until her counts are within the appropriate range. They should also be checking pressure, taking her temp and other routine things that would take place at a check-up. They should be doing this each time she goes to chemo. If you are not able to go with her to the doctor, maybe you could speak to someone who is close to her who could go and take notes about her diagnosis and then pass the info to you so that you can do some research on what is the best treatment plan at this time. You do not have to do what they tell you. You need to be proactive and help in making the decisions.



I will be praying for you and your dear mother. If you look around this website you will find plenty of 8, 10, 16 year survivors. This is a great place to be. There is hope. I am sorry you had to join this group under these circumstances, but I am glad you found us.



Sewfinegirl



P.S. I ---- the word twice as much. Last summer my 48 yr old sister-in-law had a reoccurrence after 8years. This is my second year in a row dealing with this monster. I ---- it 2.

Hi Ladies,

My mom was diagnosed Dec. 05 and had her mastectomy in Jan. '06. Then last year she was diagnosed with mets.

She was in WV but when my family and I went to visit her this past June she was hospitalized for 10days. At first her Dr's told us we couldn't bring her home to FL with us but then one of them finally caved and gave the go ahead. So here we are and taking one day at time. She's really happy to be here with us and I think she's actually a bit stronger now that she's here.

This disease is awful but there are a whole lot of very strong and wonderfully supportive people in this community that can help answer your questons. As I'm reminded somtimes, don't forget to go through the other sections of the forums and post any questions you have there also.  This website has helped me a lot. I'm finding lately it's hard for me to talk to some of my friends anymore about this anymore. They'll ask how things are going and once you tell them you can just see the look in there face, "damn why did I ask". It got really frustrating for me the other day talking with a really close friend of mine who now seems a bit disinterested but I suppose it's kinda hard to be interested in something that doesn't directly affect you. My husband on the other hand is awesome has really been there for me. I can talk to him about anything and he listens to me and is so supportive.

You can always PM me also if any of you need to vent!!!

God Bless!!!