feeling depressed.... taking a break.

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  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 754
    edited May 2008

    harley

    i hope you get to see this post-  i went thru just the same thing - my doctors say it is so common  I call it post traumatic stress like when someone comes home from war or lives thru a traumatic experience-  it is REAL !

    just when you think you will be out celebrating the end of tx it hits!

    we get so dependent on our doctors and secure during tx knowing that we are doing everything we can to make us well

    then tx is over and its like your saftey net is pulled out from under you- I fell into a depression and couldnt understand why- i went to talk to someone at the hospital i was treated at (recommended by my oncol) and she helped me understand what i was feeling was so normal !! i also did go on a anti depressant of which there are many... and that helped alot to get me over that hump

     husbands cant understand as much as they try- even friends who have not experienced what we have cannot- as much as they try

    i went thru 5 yrs with my late husband(he was 32 when he passed away )  i was 31- and i thought i understood everything he was feeling till I went thru bc myself-  i can understand you wanting to take a break but i hope you seek help from somewhere if you need it- there are so many wonderful people out there who understand us

    stay in touch-  (you can change your mind and stay here xoxoxo)

    anyway lots of love and sending a BIG HUG  to let you know it will get better!!!!

    julia

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  • Harley44
    Harley44 Member Posts: 5,446
    edited May 2008

    Oh, you guys are just SO nice.... now I'm gonna cry!! 

    I just need a break from everything bc...  I'm sorry but I don't think I could talk to a psych.  Not to worry, I'll be ok.

    I took this part time job at a little fancy boutique, and I don't really think it is the job for me.  Besides, I really think it is just TOO early for me to start working again.  But, I need the money, as this is the root of some of the problems with my dh.  No, I don't think that the ones we love can understand what we are feeling.  My dh thinks that "it's over, so just get over it, and move on."  It's not that easy. 

    I really think that this is something I just need to get through, and it will just take time.  BTW, I do have a pcp dr. appt. next week, and I'll mention it at my appt.  She will be angry, since I didn't take the Neurontin, for hot flashes... 

    I'm taking Tamoxifen, and I think that is part of the reason for this depression.  It seems to be cumulative, and I've been taking Tamox. for 6 months now... 

    Don't worry, I'll be back...  I just need a little break, I've got some things to work thru.

    Thanks everyone, you don't know how much all your messages mean to me!!

    Hugs

    Harley

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  • Poppy
    Poppy Member Posts: 405
    edited May 2008
    Harley, I just sent you a PM :)
    Erica
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  • LUVmy2girlZ
    LUVmy2girlZ Member Posts: 2,394
    edited May 2008

    Harley ~

    • Make sure you see the "HUGS4HARLEY" thread...there are others that are with you!!!

    MUCH LUV

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  • OneBadBoob
    OneBadBoob Member Posts: 1,386
    edited May 2008

    More hugs to you, Harley!!

    This all does so suck, but we do all get through it--

    More big hugs, my dear!

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  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 754
    edited May 2008

    checking to see if harley has dropped in on us again

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  • LUVmy2girlZ
    LUVmy2girlZ Member Posts: 2,394
    edited May 2008

    jdash~

    Heard from Harley on the HUGS4HARLEY thread....she still sounds like she is trying... but still is in a funk.

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  • takingcare
    takingcare Member Posts: 1,941
    edited August 2008

    Harley,

    Jusr saw this now, but wanted to add my 2 sense...great big hugs coming your way!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Harley44
    Harley44 Member Posts: 5,446
    edited August 2008

    AWWW.... Thanks, Takingcare!

    I seem to be doing better with the depression, but it is still a struggle.  My new job is a challenge for me, since I have never worked retail before, and I could just slap some of those demanding customers who come in and want everything 'just so'.  Then my 'friend' decided to go work there, and she has been causing trouble for me ever since she got there.

    NOW, this week, I am having an endometrial biopsy on Wednesday, and that really has me worried.  The last biopsy I had (breast) showed bc...

    With everything that has been going on, I haven't been on the HUMOR thread very much.  But, I do read it from time to time, and hope to be more active there soon. 

    Thanks so much for thinking about me!! 

    Harley

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  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited August 2008

    Hey Harley, I just saw this, because I'm the Queen of taking breaks, generally because I'm feeling sad. Retail can be a nightmare, my strategy was always to kill them with kindness (and then laugh about what pathetic people they were later.) You hang in there, and take good care of yourself. xo, Colleen

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