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  • Lay02
    Lay02 Member Posts: 23
    edited July 2008

    Hi oldlady,

    I live in DC and maybe the ACS has an office here. Also, my biopsy is a surgical excision and all I need is someone to pick me up. That's all.

  • Emily2008
    Emily2008 Member Posts: 605
    edited July 2008

    Hey girls!  I went to the support group meeting last night.  There were just 4 of us including the leader.  She didn't need to lead a whole lot though, b/c the 3 of us wouldn't shut up!  We were all in different stages.  One had a lump with clean margins and did rad x33.  One had a lump with questionable margins, did ACx4, and now may have to have reexcision, and I had a lump with bad margins, am having mast with recon and chemo, too.  So, we all had something to contribute, which was nice.  The best part for me was that I got to touch this lady's port under her skin.  It was freaking me out to think of it under my chest, and when I touched it, it confirmed my feelings.  Ewwww, something about the port just creeps me out.  I am SO not looking forward to getting that thing.

    Anyway, it was good to go, and they're all hoping I come back next month to fill them in on my surgery.  We'll see if I'm walking upright at that point!

    Bought another pair of button down PJs today, so now I need a few items from the packing list on the reconstruction board.  Lanyards are mentioned by some.  Did any of you with drains find that you could pin your tubes to a lanyard around your neck?

  • Monique
    Monique Member Posts: 121
    edited July 2008

    Welcome to Flyrzfan - layne157 and danix5 -  Glad you all found us :)

    Em - glad to hear the support group meeting was good for you.  I personally think support groups help alot even when your not in the mood to talk, sometimes just listening is good enough!  I agree about the creepiness of the port but still think it will be a better alternative to being stuck all the time and the problems that can come with that.  I should be getting mine soon.  Lanyards worked great for me :) . I would advise getting one.

    Lay- I'm sure there must be an office of the ACS downtown somewhere.  Something will come up for you I'm sure.

    Gail & Emily - did you all make it to the meeting today at VHC?  How was it?

    dnix5 - What is mentor gel?  I have an expander in and need to decide on my implant at some point but have not heard of mentor gel?

    Monique

  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited July 2008

    Hi ladies, you are making me home sick. I was born in DC and lived in Loudoun Co. most of my life. Mom still lives there. I have been in southwestern Va for about 8 years. I'm very near VA Tech.

    Just wanted to wish you all the best on your journey, and try to get together with one another if you can. It will mean so much.....

  • danix5
    danix5 Member Posts: 755
    edited July 2008

    Monique- Mentor is the maufacture and the implant is filled with what they call a memory gel.  Right now it is offered for BC patients only and I am in a trial,I suppose you would say, you have to fill out any forms they send you for the next like 15 yrs.  If you do not agree to be part of their survey group you can not get these gel implants.  They are soft and squishy, but feel tighter than real breast tissue.  they are Barbie and are missing the natural hang at the bottom and projection in front.  But overall in clothes you thing they are great!  I suppose more hang and softness will occur with time.

    I see Dr. Gartside in Reston she is a PS.  Had procedures done at Fairfax.

    Dani

  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 557
    edited July 2008

    Hey Dani girl...I'm well, how are you?? I finished the AC two weeks ago and start Taxol/Herceptin tomorrow...3 more months and I'll be down to every 3 weeks thank you Jesus!

    need to go back and make notes so I can respond more...somewhere I read Maggiano's (would totally be up for that, we have one in Bethesda and they are FAAANTASTIC!) and someone needs a ride from an appointment? I'll be back

    Have a good day all !

  • emilyjuanita
    emilyjuanita Member Posts: 52
    edited July 2008

    Good morning everyone-

    I think the VHC support group is next week (first and third Tuesdays, 5:00-6:30, if anyone else is interested).  I never really thought of myself as a support group person, but can definitely see the benefit.  These days I worry about troubling my friends with all the icky bc details.  I'd rather talk about "normal" stuff with them!  I think unless you are going through this, how can you relate?

    Dani- Is that picture of you with the implants?  If so, they look great!  I'm getting regular silicone after chemo.  I have an expander in now.

    Em- No one told me about lanyards.. My plastic surgeon gave me this velcro-secured bodice thing and I safety pinned the drains to that.  Whatever makes them more comfortable, go with that!

    I am trying to change my avatar, but am doing something wrong.  Keeps telling me I don't have the correct format...?  I don't remember how I got the first one up there now!

    Emily 

  • danix5
    danix5 Member Posts: 755
    edited July 2008

    emily,

    No that is me before bilateral.  But I had implants then. The elective kind you do after 5 kids and breastfeeding.  I call that my B set....A was my boobs au natural...B set was the new improved with saline implants, loved them..C set the cut your boobs off and throw some gel implants in there.

    LOL!

    Daniella

  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 557
    edited July 2008

    ok, I'm back ~ here goes

    oldlady ~ You're being treated at Bethesda? Are you ex-military or spouse? I'm ex Navy (8yrs). Just curious...you are the Maggiano's fan...LOVE that place, where do you live? Would meet you in Bethesda any given weekend...good food is one of lifes simple pleasures. How are you feeling after your surgery?

    Dawn ~ aka lastminute how are you? What happened with your tumor maker test? Have not seen you post in a  while...I'm so sorry you are going through the stress of waiting again...hope it is a good test result!

    EmilyJ ~ How is the AC for you? You recently had your first one? I hope your SE's are minimal...drink and rest are the most helpful things I can tell you. There were times during AC when I just had to say "sorry, I need to sleep" and stop whatever I was doing and nap. No guilt allowed during chemo...you need to give your body what it needs!

    Lay02 ~ Dr. Willey is awesome too from what I hear. Don't know who her nurse coordinator is but take names and cards (with contact numbers) from everyone, it will come in handy! My nurse was Darius - she saved my butt and stepped in to help many times. I loved her too! How was your appointment Monday? Did you get your path results with your ER/PR/HER2 status? Let me know when your biopsy is, I am at Georgetown at least once a week if not more, getting you home is not something you need to worry about, we can coordinate it!! I have chemo every Thursday right now...

    Emily2008 aka EM ~ I had a bilateral with a diep recon immediately afterwards. Best advice I can give you is; get out of bed as soon as you can, moving helps you heal quicker! Have soft foods at home to help you when appetite is low, if you don't eat you don't move and if you don't move, you don't recover as quick...I had issues with appetite but had stocked up on italian ice and things like mashed potatoes and macaroni and cheese. Not healthy but main thing was to EAT. I pinned my drains to my pj's - had two surgeries and drains were least of my issues for both. They never bothered me, but everyone is different so don't fret if they do bother you.

    Gail ~ how bad does this suk for you? I'm so sorry you are back going through this again..I love that you offerred to hold anyone's hand. It's nice when someone who's been there supports you because I understand now why bc patients say anyone who hasn't been there just doesn't get it. It's mostly true...thank you for being so generous! How did your port install go? I have one, and would love to keep it forever "just in case". It's made my life so much easier (my veins roll and dr's have always had a hard time getting blood). It was painful as all get out the first 48 hours (even though the nurse told me it would not be - LIAR!!) but after that it settled in and I almost never notice it. I have a new puppy so if he gets rowdy and pounces on it playing, it doesn't feel good, but otherwise I don't usually notice it.

    I start my second phase tomorrow of Taxol/Herceptin...I plan to bring my laptop with me so I can come on and see how everyone is doing and get caught up on some of the other boards. I hope you all have a quiet week with good results...sorry I did not read about the post in time to go to the support group but would like to mapquest that and see if I can get to one to see what it's like. It's a bit far for that time of day but willing to give it a try...I think we should try to plan something far enough out that we can all get a day to meet at a local restaurant and have a luncheon (on a Saturday or Sunday for those of us who are still working!!) so we can put faces to names...I love this board and would welcome the chance to meet and interact in person...thoughts/suggestions on date and place welcome Smile

    have a great day all!!!

  • lastminuteD
    lastminuteD Member Posts: 333
    edited July 2008

    hey all!!  sorry I've been missing - just needed to NOT think so much about cancer while I was waiting for the blood test results.  Now I need to go back and catch up with you guys!!

    Good news!!  tumor markers were normal, PET/CT negative - so onc wants me to get a bone scan and then redo the blood work & ct scan of my chest in 3 months - she thinks whatever is in my lung and the changes to my healed rib fracture are post radiation changes.

    Big relief but I'm sure I'll get all freaked out again when it's test time.  Now to get my last herceptin next Tuesday and keep praying I'll be able to get this dang port out as soon as the results come back NEGATIVE again!!  Kind of closure in my brain if I can get it out - I know it can be put back in if needed but I don't need the constant reminder.  Smile 

    It will be an early Christmas present for me!! Wink

    Our group sure is growing!!  Hey Bonnie!! cute picture! 

    Looks to me like we could start our own support group! 

    Dawn

  • Monique
    Monique Member Posts: 121
    edited July 2008

    Good afternoon everyone :)

    SUGGESTION TO ALL:  What does everyone think about trying to get together next Saturday for lunch at the Tyson's Maggiano's?

    Danix5 - what a small world - my PS is Dr. Gartside too!  I will have to ask her about those implants when I get these annoying expanders out!   Where do you live in Stafford if you don't mind me asking?  It's ok if you don't want to say on the board, no problem.

    Emily - How are you feeling with you first round of chemo?

    Dawn - Also curious as flyrzfan asked - how did the tumor marker test turn out.  I hope well :)

    Gail - How's the port? 

    Mary-Lou - If you are ever visiting back up here let us know :)

  • Monique
    Monique Member Posts: 121
    edited July 2008
  • nash
    nash Member Posts: 2,600
    edited July 2008
  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 557
    edited July 2008
    I would totally be in on the Maggiano's...I don't know where the Tyson's one is but how lost could I possibly get??? Smile
  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 557
    edited July 2008

    Dawn ~ SO glad to see you post and glad all is going well!! Negative scans and blood work is always a good thing...

    I have chemo tomorrow and I am off on Friday so I'll try to keep this post bumped so the others can see the suggestion to meet next Saturday. I think it would be great if we could all get together for some face time...

    have a good night all....

  • emilyjuanita
    emilyjuanita Member Posts: 52
    edited July 2008

    I would really like to meet all of you face to face!  Unfortunately, Saturday I have to drive my daughter to camp at VCU.  Hopefully next time!

    Emily 

  • Lay02
    Lay02 Member Posts: 23
    edited July 2008

    I would love to meet everyone on Saturday at Maggiano's. It's at the Galleria. Please advise on time and how would we recognize each other.

  • Lay02
    Lay02 Member Posts: 23
    edited July 2008

    flyrzfan- It took me 3 weeks to schedule an appointment with Dr. Willey. I did not expect to deal with nurses. Her nurse is Minna and she was very helpful and I liked her. But everything takes time with the office and perhaps with the hospital. I don't know. Also, it takes 48 hours to confirm the date of the excision and I should know something tomorrow. The earliest I could have is early September. I am afraid something will happen to me before that date. Should I continue worrying??

  • danix5
    danix5 Member Posts: 755
    edited July 2008

    Oh I am leaving to Va beach on Sat!  I would love to meet everyone another day!

    Monique- I live in North Stafford Park Ridge neighborhood!  Do you live in Stafford?

    do you like Dr Gartside, I sometimes would call her dr fartside!!!  LOL!

    She is suppose to be really good!

    PM me about what you think.

    Dani

  • oldlady
    oldlady Member Posts: 87
    edited July 2008

    My doc says I can't drive until 14 days post-surgery so this weekend is out for me.

  • Monique
    Monique Member Posts: 121
    edited July 2008

    Just wanted to make sure everyone is on the same page about lunch.

    I am proposing August 9th to meet - however if more people who want to come can make August 16th we could shoot for that date instead.

  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited July 2008
    Monique~ I will PM you if I come that way. Thanks for the invite.
  • Daffodil
    Daffodil Member Posts: 829
    edited October 2008

    Washington, DC Office,  American Cancer Society

    1875 Connecticut Ave NW STE 730

    Washington, DC 20009

    There is also an office in Wheaton, MD, near Wheaton Plaza.

  • lastminuteD
    lastminuteD Member Posts: 333
    edited July 2008

    awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, I already have several places to be this Saturday (my BABY BOY turns 18!!! OMG) and I'll be in CA on the 9th and coming home from Vegas on the 16th!!  Maggiano's sounds SOOOOOOOOOOOOO yummy and it will be awesome to put names to faces!  Hopefully I can make the next one!

    Good luck with your taxol/herceptin today Bonnie!!  are you doing weekly or every 3 weeks?

    I did weekly - 8/24-11/9/07.....................

    anybody else have treatment today or tomorrow?

    Dawn

  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 557
    edited August 2008

    hey ladies...seems like most can't make the 9th...we could certaintaly wait for another date when more are able to make it!

    obviously by the time of this post, the steriods are once again keeping me up!

    Dawn ~ my first infusion took 10 hours. Turns out I am allergic to the Herceptin so they had to stop it and give me meds to try and control the reaction. When they restarted they went VERY slow...I felt like crap yesterday but at 2am I feel pretty good all things considered. Hopefully I will be able to continue. I am due for every week for 12 weeks, then move to every 3 weeks. I'm really concerned about not being able to do Herceptin, that's the most important part besides the a/c as far as I am concerned. We will have to see.

    Lay ~ I'm the type of person that would tell you the truth in a heartbeat if I thought you should be concerned. Honestly, I think the process moves slower for everyone than what we want it to. That's just the nature of being the one with the cancer, you want everything to happen NOW. Georgetown has been so accomodating and thorough compared to some of the horror stories I have heard on this site, I can't imagine going anywhere else. Also, I have been in Suburban and Shady Grove and Georgetown is so much cleaner, up to date and has sooo many staff that are genuinely happy to work there and love their jobs! In the long run, I think you'll be happy if you stay with them. The nurses do the bulk of the work every where and the ones at GUH are fantastic. I DON'T think you shoul worry about anything happening to you...my process went on for months (my obgyn f'd up first) and I had a tumor that was highly aggressive. In the end it's all fine, it's just scary knowing it's there. Did you have a needle biopsy and get a pathology report yet? Can you post what it says?

    Everyone else, I hope all is well...those of you going on vacation or enjoying graduations ~ have fun! I hope the weather cooperates!

    Here's hoping we can all get together in the coming weeks...I'm looking forward to meeting you all face to face...

  • gk2bc0
    gk2bc0 Member Posts: 56
    edited August 2008

    Whew!  just caught up on all of you and don't have the time to respond as I would like. Thanks for your inquiries about the port. It went in on Monday, and is still sore, but was used for Herceptin treatment yesterday without any problem.My WBC was down to .5 and I had two shots of neupogen this week, and it jumped to 17.2 practically overnight. That was good news.  I take all the drugs next week TCH, so it will be put to the test. 

    Was I wrong about the support group meeting? (1st and 3rd tuesday) but there was a 5th tuesday in july!  I will have to check the VHC calendar about August 5 ( There is a ACS "Look good feel better" session planned for Monday Aug 4. I think you may need to register for that 703-558-555.

    I am back to work part time, so lunches are out for me, unfortunately, and summer weekends are packed. Since I have some kind of treatment or dr appt every week, no vacation for a while either. we have a family wedding this weekend in PA, so there is something to look forward to. Once the boys go/go back to college, there might be some time to get away for a few days. I will sorely miss going to the OBX this summer.  

    Hair!  I have a beautiful wig I got at Amy's of Denmark in Wheaton a few weeks ago in anticipation of losing mine. I am shedding like a cat today, so i might have my son buzz it off tonight before travelling. The bald head is a dead giveaway, so i have been avoiding it, and wigs can be hot. There's no free pass, get outta going bald!  

    Hang in there ladies! have a good weekend!  Gail 

  • gk2bc0
    gk2bc0 Member Posts: 56
    edited August 2008

    I have a question for everyone...how open are you about your treatments?  I just rode up in an elevator with someone I haven't seen in weeks (duh, I've been out having a mastectomy, recon and chemo and forgot to put that in a memo) When she commented about my new short haircut, I was direct, and told her that it was an interim measure until I lost my hair from chemo.  You could just see that "look" of horror come over her...like she was sorry she asked!  Do others take these "teachable" moments to show how a person can have bc and still function?   I find that each time I retreat into denial that it winds up hurting more. Thoughts?

  • Lay02
    Lay02 Member Posts: 23
    edited August 2008

    Hi All, Please let me know the date we can meet and hopefully, I will come.

    flyrzfan- Thank you for the good explanation regarding Georgetown. I had stereotactics biopsy on 7-3 and the diagnosis is LCIS with ADH and ALH. Then I saw Dr. Willey and she suggested that I have a Needle Wire Localization and I do not have family history of breast cancer. My mother died of cervical cancer at age 43. The surgical excision is scheduled for 9-2, from 7-12:00. My follow up date is 9-8. So I do not have any reports as of yet. I did some research on the internet on LCIS and thought I would have a lumpectomy but that's not what the Dr. ordered. Do you think she is doing the right thing, knowning that she is the BC Director?? Thanks.

  • Lay02
    Lay02 Member Posts: 23
    edited August 2008

    Question to All,

    If an insurance company did not pay for laboratory work which should be covered, or a biopsy, what government agency in DC regulate health insurance companies and protect individuals rights?? Thanks.

  • emilyjuanita
    emilyjuanita Member Posts: 52
    edited August 2008

    Hi everyone-

    Gk2bc0:

    I've decided to be direct (but polite Smile) with everyone about my cancer.  Number one, even people who know me just a little can tell there's something wrong with me.  I just got my head shaved yesterday, and while I have wigs, they don't look exactly like my old hair, so the question is going to come up.  Number two, ok, this week I feel better, but last week I was SO out of it!  I was not myself at all and frankly, I was kind of cranky.  If people know what's up with me, they can understand if I am spacing out and not really listening to them, or acting impatient, or whatever.

    I have gotten a few of those shocked reactions.  Some people respond as if you've just told them you are going to die at any moment.  I've had a number of people I barely know tell me they are going to pray for me, which is well meaning but seems awfully personal somehow.  

    Anyway, I'd rather people know what's going on.

    You know, one thing that didn't occur to me until my daughter brought it up is that my kids have to deal with all kinds of reactions from other kids and their parents.  My husband and I are trying to stay very positive about this, but other people react to my kids as if I am just about dead!  My daughter's boyfriend's mother started crying when she heard about me going through chemo!  Not helpful!

    Thanks for bringing the subject up!

    Emily 

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